Today is the last day of the Everything Star Wars Blogathon!
For our grand finale, I wanted to do a post exclusively devoted to Star Wars romances. Because what’s a blog party without a little fangirling, mm?
I’m gonna talk about my favorite SW couples, or potential-could-have-been couples, in no particular order. That is, I’m not planning to rank them. (rank my children?!?! *gasps* tHe HoRrOr)
I must warn you, I have Unconventional Opinions when it comes to romance–and when it comes to Star Wars. Put the two together in a single post, and you get a whole cackling cauldron full of controversy. Read on at your own risssssssssssssssk *spooky witch’s voice*
Right, then, mates! Let’s get started!
Mando and Cara Dune
Am I basically the only person who stans this pairing? WHERE is the fanart??? *resigned sigh* O-KAY.
Obviously, Mando’s relationship with Cara stays on a “just friends” basis in the first season. I’m fine with that. But I see the potential for them to develop a strong romance based on that foundation–if I were the writer, it’s what I’d do. Ergo, I ship ’em.
Mando and Cara understand each other. They share a similar code (duty, loyalty, stoic strength) which doesn’t make sense to a lot of the folks they separately encounter. But the minute they find each other, they instantly begin speaking the same language. There’s a relief there, a relaxing into familiar patterns. They trust each other 100%. They respect each other. They comfortably fit into the same lifestyle–danger, disruption, the readiness to pack up and leave in a cloud of dust at a moment’s notice. Not many people (I think) could “keep up” with Mando, and not many could “keep up” with Cara … but together? They’re perfect.
So why not make them life partners?
For the record, I understand & value the argument that Cara and Mando should remain friends only, for the sake of representation, because we don’t have many healthy male-female friendships in fiction. However, I would argue we have so few truly healthy ROMANCES in fiction, it would be equally valuable to go the romance route. Especially since women like Cara–mature, tough, physically substantial warriors–don’t play love interests. They don’t figure in our visual culture as sexually desirable. Have you ever noticed this? I didn’t, until I watched this excellent video from the Council of Geeks. Sure, the tomboy archetype is “sexy.” But “tomboy” implies a woman young, impetuous, slender, and lithe enough to be considered boyish–or even mistaken for a boy. (Homoerotic undertones? Yeah! Absolutely! Do we have time to unpack them? No!) Once you’re no longer a “boy,” though, once you’re a woman solidly past 30 yet still presenting as “masculine,” writers don’t think of you as hot stuff any more. Male characters generally don’t see you as sexy. This is a stupid rule, and we should toss it out.
So again I say: let Mando and Cara Dune fall in love!
Rey and Ben Solo
Rey and Ben are a bit different from the other couples on this list, and from my #otps in general. Usually when I say I ship a couple, I mean “I could see them together in a committed relationship.” And I don’t see that for Rey and Ben, even if he had survived, which of course he didn’t. If Ben had survived, we’re talking years of imprisonment for war crimes (the guy WAS Mini-Space-Hitler until just a few days ago), and I just … I see too much potential for backsliding and a recurrence of his darker emotional issues under that kind of pressure. You know? This is not an auspicious start to any relationship, and I believe my girl Rey deserves better. So all in all, I’m fine with the fact that Ben didn’t survive and Rey is moving forward as a single woman.
For the last glorious hour of the Skywalker Saga, Rey and Ben fused into a magnificent romantic duo, and their first and last kiss is quite possibly the greatest triumph of all shipping history. I. said. what. I. said. They were brilliant together. I felt it. You felt it. My dad felt it. My cat felt it. WE ALL FELT IT.
“I did want to take your hand …
… Ben’s hand.”
Finn and Poe Dameron
StormPilot isn’t likely ever to become canon (when has that stopped me before, tho?? huh???) Still, I think I’m in fairly good company, seeing how Oscar Isaacs himself is the proud captain of this ship. Oscar’s been vocal about his hopes that his character could’ve been openly gay/bi and openly in love with Finn, but (I quote) “people are too afraid.” In other words, the man is straight-up calling the Disney corporate execs who control his future with the franchise, cowards … and if that’s not the most Poe Dameron thing ever, I’m not sure what is. 😛
An actor can’t determine the direction of the story, obviously, nor dictate fans’ interpretations. But an actor can put their own stamp on the script they’ve been given to work with. And looking back at the trilogy, I find many Finn/Poe scenes where I believe Oscar did just that.
It’s … it’s frustrating, because I definitely feel the natural chemistry between these characters whenever they share the screen, BUT at the same time, I’m irritated by the misdirection Disney threw into the mix. That’s my biggest complaint about the sequel trilogy, which I otherwise adore: the muddled romantic threads. “Is Finn in love with Rey? Is Finn in love with Rose? Is Poe in love with Rey? Wait, wait, no, is Poe in love with Keri Russell’s character whose name at the moment escapes me?” Clearly there was no intention of making any of these side flirtations endgame–since Finn and Poe are very much single, available, AND happily paired up as
platonic life partners “co-generals” by the end of Rise of Skywalker–but Disney didn’t want it to be Too Easy to interpret things as gay, so they had to keep the audience guessing. It’s just dumb, and doesn’t serve their female costars well, either. *grumbles*
Oh, well. At least I have Poe’s adorable little smirk during the Force Awakens “keep it, it suits you” scene to console me. 😉
If you don’t ship StormPilot, I understand. But I believe I am justified in concluding it’s at least as plausible for Finn and Poe to end up together, as any of the other potential pairings “teased” in this trilogy.
Cassian Andor and Jyn Erso
Ah yes … the only ship on my list no Star Wars fan will disagree with (heh) … the star-crossed lovers doomed to die together. Dang, we really need us some happy endings, don’t we? 😛
I’m kidding. I’m not mad that Jyn and Cassian died, and certainly not mad they died together. I think it was a bold, brave choice for the writers of Rogue One to allow their entire cast to lay down their lives for their mission. Because sometimes? Sometimes, in the real world, you don’t make it out. But that doesn’t mean you failed. Sometimes, it means you brought hope to an entire galaxy.
I mean, absolutely: my babies were soft and precious and perfect for each other and surely would’ve raised glorious RebelCaptain children in a wee little house in a safe little forest somewhere. DON’T THINK I DON’T FEEL THAT LOSS. I’m just sayin’. Just because the ending hurts, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
Han Solo and Qi’ra
Yep, I am Going There, y’all. I am talking about Han Solo’s first love interest, Qi’ra (Emilia Clarke) from Solo: A Star Wars Story, and I am saying for the whole world to hear that I think Qi’ra was a better fit for him than Leia.
Let us pause to allow our audience to scrape their jaws from the floor. xD
Look, I liked Qi’ra a lot, and I loved Han’s dynamic with her. She was this beautiful wisp of a girl, an improbably delicate flower sprouting from the slums they were both raised in: living by her wits more than sheer strength. (Something which Han Solo has always understood.) Qi’ra and Han shared a dream of making it to freedom together, and even when Han lost sight of her for years, he still loved her. There’s romance in that, you guys. Romance which Appeals To Me.
Now, of course the writers made Qi’ra join forces with Darth Maul at the end of the movie, because they knew they needed to “clear the way” for Leia (ie, explain why Han was still single in A New Hope.) I suppose it’s better than killing Qi’ra off–at least they were trying to give her agency??–but still, IT’S NOT A FREE CHOICE. Cuz they’d been painted into a corner: either give her a villain arc, or fridge her.
I know Han and Leia’s romance is important to many Star Wars fans. I don’t count myself among that number. True, I can’t say with certainty that Qi’ra and Han would have had a “better” future than Leia and Han … but I can say I don’t love how Leia and Han turned out as a couple. And unlike Qi’ra’s “downfall,” it doesn’t feel forced to me: it’s just the way things are.
When The Force Awakens begins, Han and Leia have been long estranged. It would be easy to shift the blame for this rift onto losing their son, Kylo Ren, to the Dark Side. But that wouldn’t be entirely true. Instead, we learn from TFA and TLJ that Han and Leia’s marriage was on the rocks for years, even when Ben Solo was a child. They would fight, Han would leave in the Millennium Falcon for months at a time … and Ben’s anger at his dad’s constant absences helped push him to the Darkness in the first place. I’m not saying this is an excuse: I’m saying it’s a contributing factor.
These relationship troubles have their root in Leia and Han’s clashing personalities and clashing goals. They’re both abrasive, brash, and hot-tempered, already not the best mix. Leia is a career politician and military leader, who wants to stay in one place and build a legacy. Han hates responsibility, hates being tied down. He wants nothing more than unlimited freedom to explore the galaxy. Differences like these MATTER. Incompatibility MATTERS. No matter how strong your feelings for someone, if you can’t stand to live in the same house … you don’t just “overcome” that.
It is my belief that Qi’ra, as a softer, more fluid personality and a clear lover of the explore-and-range-and-scheme-and-con-people-out-of-their-money lifestyle, would have meshed better with Han Solo in the long run. She could have been his Pirate Queen. And I confess, that image warms my cold, unfeeling, unromantic heart. 😛
So there you have it, fellas! My favorite Star Wars ships! Do you see any of your own favorites here? Or do you disagree with every single one of my picks? (lol) Let me know in the comments!
This is my last post for the Everything Star Wars Blogathon! Tomorrow, I’ll be publishing a link-up for everyone’s posts, so you won’t miss any contributions.
I’ve had so much fun, and I’m so sorry this lovely blogathon has to end …
… so here is a picture of Adam Driver and Daisy Ridley looking S W O L E for absolutely no reason at all.
You’re welcome. 😛
Thanks so much for partying with us!!! ❤